The ‘Yes Men’ disconnect and how it hurts your leadership
Very few big executives want to be surrounded by ‘yes’ men - Burton Bigelow
I heard a somewhat humorous account some years back about the Biblical story of David and Goliath. When the Israelites came up against Goliath all the soldiers thought was, “He’s so big we can never kill him.” When David looked at him he thought, “He’s so big I can’t miss.” It all came down to perspective. And in the end we know, David killed the giant.
One of the blind spots for leaders who have been around a long time in their organization is that they tend to be the ones with the greatest disconnect to what is really happening. And many a good and aspiring leader had rather tell the boss what he or she wants to hear rather than what they need to hear. Sound familiar?
But let’s be honest - many find it difficult to speak the truth for fear of negative repercussions, etc. And out of that fear, the truth is sacrificed for the expediency of the moment. As an aspiring leader yourself, what are you to do? Here are a few tips to navigate those treacherous waters.
BUILD RELATIONSHIPS
That you want to speak truth to the leader in your life is noble. But you have to earn that right. And you earn that right not by being “right” all the time, but by building a relationship where you earn that person's trust. Until you recognize this you will always be afraid to speak up.
BE A TEAM PLAYER
If you are going to build off that trust you must be a team player. By that I mean you must check your ego at the door and your motives must be genuine. It’s as you build up your leader that you build up your organization. If you have hidden motives, eventually it will come to light. You’ll never build trust if your intentions are deceiving.
STOP BEING THE GATEKEEPER
Leaders need perspective and people around them that will speak the truth. But that can’t happen so long as gatekeepers build walls that prevent all voices and ideas from being heard. If you truly care about your organization, then you will welcome input and ideas from a wide range of people who can provide the perspective that is needed. Disarm the body guards and let your leader hear what needs to be said.
BE COURAGEOUS AND HUMBLE
Speaking the truth will not always be easy. It will require courage on your part and a dose of humility to say it. To that end, more times than not it is not what you say but how you say it that makes the difference. Most leaders want the truth, but not delivered with an arrogant attitude.
In the end, two things really matter: leaders need to be told the truth and have people surrounding them not afraid to do it. You are doing a disservice to yourself, the leader you work with, and to your organization as a whole if you don’t. It’s a mark of your maturity as a leader when you learn to do it right - and when you do everyone wins.
© 2017 Doug Dickerson
Doug Dickerson is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, columnist, and author. A Lowcountry resident, he is available for leadership training for your organization. To learn more visit Dougdickerson.wordpress.com or email him at managementmoment@gmail.com.